A friend of mine recently came to me like they do always and wanted to talk about a couple of issues she was having in her "love life" she says that every time she meets some one she thinks she likes it ends up being just a waste of time.The relationship is either seasonal or something just isn't right. I told her I am no Dr. Phil but I kind can relate to what she experiencing. So this was my advice to her and feel free to ad on any advice you have.
Ok so first as young women and men we tend to jump ahead of things instead of analyzing the situation then move on the the next step. We meet that someone and if we are really feeling them we tend to be blinded to all the negative things about that person or even take the time to figure out the negative things. Some of us put on acts or fronts when we meet someone we try to make it seem like on top of our shit so the other person would think good of you. From the dinners, texting all day, calling every hour and the #1 one thing we always go wrong at; spending way to much time around a person will definitely blind you from things you should have found out in the beginning. To make along story short SLOW SOWN don't just meet some one and because he or she make you smile from ear to ear when their number pops up on your cell phone.You automatically think you have found a winner cause if he or she is fronting you will look like the looser in the end. Friendship is always a good beginning it gives you time to really get to know a person on a "homie" level that way you can determine if that person is what your looking for.
Seasonal relationships do exist people and trust me I am the one to talk about them. Its like a fad or a trend that goes out of style. Its winter your bored, cold and just want chill so you find someone that you are cool with you guys chill because your bored and you like each others company. Soon as the weather breaks and the flip flops and tanks tops come in its a whole different story. I mean who wants to sit in the house and be all up under someone when its 91 degrees out side. Hotness brings tension and temptation not necessarily for the opposite sex but from anything to clubs, trips, new whips, and just wanting to be free and enjoy the nice weather. No this doesn't apply to everyone because I myself have been in a relationship that lasted for multiple seasons and it is a tuff thing to do. To avoid this take one simple action REALNESS you know dam well you act a fool in the summer so why get involve in the middle of march. AVOID! be considerate of other feelings I am slowly learning that.
My advice to her was along the same lines minus the cursing and screaming. I ended the conversation by telling her to just chill its ok to be single shit I love it!!!!! Take a trip here pop of few bottles there and then through up the piece sign!! Life is short have as much fun as you want cause when that rings is on that finger those days will be over. You need to figure yourself out first because you could be the reason for your love failure.............L Kisses
